Trusting Yourself After Therapy: A Personal Coaching Session

Benjamin Adkins, ICP-ACC
May 22, 2024By Benjamin Adkins, ICP-ACC

Imagine we're sitting together on a comfortable couch, a warm cup of coffee or tea in hand. You're here because, like me, you've spent years working on yourself in therapy. Now, you're stepping into a new chapter without that structured support, and it's both thrilling and daunting. You might find yourself wondering, "Do I trust myself? Have I really done the work?"

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Let's talk about that. It's natural to question your progress and feel a bit unsure. But remember, every challenge you face is a bridge you can cross, even if there are fears lurking underneath. I'm here to help you see that you have the strength to keep moving forward.

Embracing the Fear:

It's perfectly okay to feel scared when the safety net of therapy is no longer there. Stepping into this new phase of your life can feel overwhelming. There will be times when you doubt your progress. This fear is a part of your journey. The goal isn't to eliminate it but to embrace it, letting it guide you toward continued growth. Your healing journey is ongoing, involving daily choices that align with your values, especially when it comes to letting new people into your life.

The Importance of Trust:

One of the most significant lessons I've learned, and one that I share with my clients, is the importance of trust. Trusting yourself and others can be incredibly challenging, especially if past experiences have left you wary. It's tempting to build walls and control every aspect of your interactions to prevent getting hurt. However, true growth comes from learning to trust. You have to believe that the work you've done has prepared you to handle whatever comes your way.

Three Tips for Enhancing Personal Agility

Daily Self-Check-Ins: Begin each day with a moment of reflection. Ask yourself, "How am I feeling today? What are my goals? What do I need to focus on?" This practice helps you stay connected with your inner self and address any doubts or fears early on.

Weekly Retrospectives: Just like in Agile coaching, conduct weekly retrospectives with yourself. Reflect on what went well, what didn’t, and what you can improve. This practice keeps you grounded and continuously evolving in your approach to life's challenges.

Trust and Let Go: Practice trusting yourself and others. Let go of the need to control every outcome. Understand that not everyone will hurt you and that you have the resilience to handle setbacks. Trust in your ability to make the right decisions and learn from any mistakes.

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Being alone and learning to trust and depend on yourself can be both empowering and challenging. It's difficult to let people in when you can't control their actions. However, by trusting the work you've done and embracing personal agility, you can navigate these challenges successfully. Remember, the healing journey is continuous, and every day brings an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Keep checking in with yourself, trust the process, and know that you have the strength to face any situation.

I hope these tips help you as much as they've helped me. Let's continue this journey of healing and growth together. If you're looking for more personalized guidance and support, I'd love to connect with you. Visit to learn more and sign up for a free chemistry meeting. Let's explore how we can work together to achieve your goals and navigate your journey with confidence.

By Benjamin Adkins, ACC - Certifed Agile Life & Leadership Coach